I asked her if I could share something personal with her and I warned her that what I shared with her could change our relationship. I proceeded to tell her that Ashley and I were not a thing. (This was done over the phone btw.)
She responded, "Oh no no no, I didn't mean to imply that at all. I figured if you liked her that way you'd be calling her every day."
I said, "Yes well, there's that and I am gay and I am not interested in dating people of the opposite sex. I sort of know where you stand on the issue, but I was still interested in knowing what you thought of that because I feel that a relationship should be not simply about a man and a woman and I know that you listen to Bill O'reilly a lot," (Gay Marriage: Darren Spedale vs. Bill O'Reilly)
My voice shook out of control, I was nervous, "And you shared that you were hunting with Grandpa and I think that's what a relationship is really about and I am really excited to have a niece and I love my little nephew from my brother and sister in law."
I couldn't stop talking, "And the Lutherans in Minnesota are actually really supportive and I have told everyone else in the family and I wanted you to know that they all love and support me. And, I was wondering what you thought about that." (Many Lutherans have been recognized for their advocacy for same sex marriage across the state. Lutherans Concerned.)
She said, "Oh, I don't think you want to hear what I think."
"No, it's ok, I want to know."
"It's an abomination."
After the conversation proceeded through some rough waters, without debate but thorough listening, I posted the end result of the conversation on Facebook. And I didn't realize all that I had accomplished until after 20 individuals liked the status and several more gave reaffirming comments. Below is what friends and family had to say.
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