My brother brings to me an excellent point. It is often that we discuss homosexuality and the ins and outs of the matter simply because it comes up now and than. We probably talk about this as much as we will talk daily politics, pet peeves of our mother, and various other doings of the day. It's not of course, the only thing I will talk about.

My brother commented in regards to the well received post, I Knew Little About My Gay Cousin.

He defends himself saying he was never afraid of butt sex and his homophobia was a result of the lack of exposure to gay people. The point I would like to focus on, being anally fixated as Freud would likely classify me as, is the fear of butt sex.

"Hey, its your bro, Tim. First off Its nice to see more commenting on here, obviously more interest going on in your writings Jake.

I must say though, "afraid" is a vague term used to describe the feeling that people like myself feel about issues such ad homosexuality. Obviously I was not scared of "butt sex" as you SARCASTICALLY stated. A better list of terms could probably be; Confused about the issue; inexperienced in the issue; or biased about the issue.

I would say biased would be the absolute best description for me. Respectfully in my defense, at what point in my life was I ever truly exposed to gays and lesbians? Twice if not a couple times more not much though. The only exposure was our cousin who you know we saw only a couple times in our childhood lives. As a simple minded person I was easily swayed into the perception that gays = bad, which I agree is horrible. Now that I have learned of your sexuality I have very much opened my mind, and truly regret any snide comments I have ever made about gays and especially our cousin. At no point was I "scared" of the issue, confused? Yes. Biased? Yes, I am scared of snakes, not and never was of gays" 

This comment is to anyone with a brother who has come to accept their sexuality, touching. It shows that there is room for change and there is always room for improvement. This comment also goes to show there is a huge benefit in coming out of the closet in some cases. Of course, this is not true in all cases.

But enough emotional touchy lovey dovey stuff. Lets get on to the facts and fun analogies. Butt sex in men is shown to prevent prostate cancer. Ok prostate massage to be more specific. Here's a link if you don't believe me. Prostate Massage And of course, never participate in unsafe sex with untrustworthy partners. Anal sex for gay men is still high risk with the HIV/AIDs factor.

That, however, isn't the point. And if poop creeps you out, you can always have an enema. But butt sex isn't scary. If the opponents of gay marriage and lgbt equality aren't scared of butt sex, what exactly is the issue? Lack of exposure, like my brother claims for himself personally, or is it a just a different feeling all together that keeps people from talking about butt sex? Like perhaps its the same feeling a gay male gets when looking at a wet pussy! Or perhaps when a lesbian looks at a slimy cock!

My brother, is after all, a Marine. He has seen a lot of frightening things. As he states, he is afraid of snakes. And that feeling would be arguably different than the feeling I personally get when reaching into the bottom of a sink full of dishes leftover from spaghetti. I get squeamish. Noodles, and wet meat, and foamy red suds. Eww.

So, obviously, my brother is not scared of lgbt's or frightened. And perhaps, there are millions more like my brother who are/were instead of scared of lgbt equality, are/were more squeamish about the whole concept as it is more of a cultural taboo bloggers like myself and activists across the nation are finally de-stigmatizing. Perhaps those who are just a little squeamish about what the inners of a bungholio has to offer, just need a good discussion about butt sex. Not everyone likes butt sex. Not everyone will be submissive to have butt sex. (Though, I would like to see how submissive others feel when there is a 9 inch wooo, going to lose my chances as a psychologist soon. Too opinionated.) And perhaps to get others to understand that vaginas don't offer nothing but an indifference to some gay men and atrocity to others or vice versa for  lesbians, would be a better path to equality instead of just sarcastically assuming, all anti-gays, are/were "scared" of butt sex.